{"id":2281,"date":"2020-07-14T23:36:41","date_gmt":"2020-07-15T06:36:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shescribe.com\/?p=2281"},"modified":"2020-07-14T23:36:43","modified_gmt":"2020-07-15T06:36:43","slug":"i-think-i-want-to-shave-my-head","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shirscribe.com\/index.php\/2020\/07\/14\/i-think-i-want-to-shave-my-head\/","title":{"rendered":"I Think I Want to Shave My Head"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Tiffany Haddish<\/a> just did it. Sanaa Lathan did it<\/a> a few years ago. And, I don\u2019t know, I want to do it too. Not because they did it, just because I want to do it. But the fact that they did it makes it a bit easier if I\u2019m going to do it.\u00a0 It looked good on both of them, I\u2019m not so sure how it\u2019s going to look on me. When it comes to women, hair has a lot to do with beauty. I am no exception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are a lot of things about me that don\u2019t fit into the stereotypical, conventional standards of beauty, and yet I\u2019m still beautiful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hair can so often be a crutch. It\u2019s amazing to me how I\u2019ve been considered ugly or pretty just by the style of my hair \u2013 same face, no makeup, nothing different, just my hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ll never forget the time I went to get my hair done for my senior pictures \u2013 high school senior pictures. I went to this beauty salon that I had never gone to before, which also had a barber shop in it.  Now I\u2019m thinking I didn\u2019t realize that that beauty shop was also a barber shop, because if I did, there is no way I would have chosen that place to get my hair done. I have natural hair that got a press, so you know how crazy we be lookin\u2019 after getting shampooed and blow-dried.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Anyway, I walked into the shop, and the first thing I see is a guy, prepping his area for his next client. A guy, who totally and completely gave no fucks that I was there. I couldn\u2019t tell if he was ignoring me, or literally  just didn\u2019t see me, he was so oblivious to my presence. And while I noticed my lack of being noticed, hey shit happens \u2013 no biggie. It wasn\u2019t the first time, wouldn\u2019t be the last. If anything it gave me a little bit of relief that he wouldn\u2019t be paying me any attention during that part of the visit when my hair is all over my head and I be lookin\u2019 hella crazy. And sure enough he didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But  just as soon as the majority of my hair became straight, all of a sudden I had some eyes on me \u2013 his eyes. Once the hairdresser was through, and I walked out of the salon, he stared. Same clothes, same weight, same face \u2013 different hair.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I love telling that story. I\u2019m fascinated by that. It\u2019s so interesting to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that\u2019s just my hair. Now you throw makeup into the mix, and I\u2019m told that I look like a completely different person. Like, people who I\u2019ve interacted with on a daily basis have told me that with my makeup and hair done, they didn\u2019t recognize me, I look so different. And by different they mean better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s enough to make a girl want to get her hair done and wear makeup all the time\u2026well, not this girl\u2026well, usually not this girl. I\u2019m not totally impervious to other people\u2019s opinions and societal standards of beauty.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For me, I am all about finding the beauty in just being me. I\u2019m all about finding a beauty that\u2019s validated by me, not lying in waiting for anyone else to notice, anyone else to agree, just being beautiful me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s a hard road to get to, so maybe also a part of the reason I want to shave my head is to see if I really believe. Like Is this shit that I\u2019m just telling myself to make me think I feel good about myself, or can I really physically embody it? Hmmm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the main reason I want to shave my head is because my hair is funky. It\u2019s so crazy right now. It\u2019s a bunch of different lengths, different textures. I have a patch of hair on my head that\u2019s like an inch or two long, while the rest of my hair is around shoulder length.  It\u2019s in the back on the upper left side, and it\u2019s not growing. It\u2019s so annoying. Some of my hair is just really damaged too. So I figured I could just start anew. I would just shave it all off, not so I could rock the bald look for a while, but so I could grow it back healthy. I would just shave it off once, I wouldn\u2019t keep going back to get it buzzed. Once my curls starts sprouting through, I would just let it grow, let it groooow. I would  just take care of it from there — start from scratch instead of trying to nurse this frizzle-frazzle back to health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Honestly, I would have done it by now if it wasn\u2019t for my wedding. Am I getting married, you may ask? Someday\u2026 I hope. But for now, I\u2019m single as the day is long. It\u2019s just that, you now, you never know. And since I want to have my own hair styled on my wedding day without any weaves, or extras, and I want it to be long, I couldn\u2019t possibly shave my head only to meet my future husband a short time later and have my wedding pictures taken with a mini-fro. Or at least that\u2019s what I tell myself. Truth is, if I would have shaved my head the first time I got the idea, I could have had hair practically down my back before my wedding day, being that it is still somewhere off in the unknown distance not to exclude after I get to Heaven \u2013 a little 40-year-old single girl humor. Perhaps it\u2019s wishful thinking to think that I\u2019ll meet my future husband with a bald head anyway\u2026that would really be dope though.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then there\u2019s the whole shape of my head situation.  Tiffany Haddish has a nicely- shaped head, not too big.  Sanaa Lathan\u2019s head looked good bald too, perfectly round. My head, on the other hand, is more of an LL Cool J, Ne-yo type sit-che-ation, and those dudes are always wearing hats or caps to cover that slick. So if these men aren\u2019t to keen on a big, bald head, where does that leave me as a woman? Not to mention I got a couple of hooks and dents in my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These are the things that I have to think about. These are the things that have deterred me. But I\u2019m 40 now, and the coronavirus is wreaking havoc all over the world, reminding me of how things can change on a dime, and I\u2019m trying to live my best life, so maybe I should just do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, there\u2019s always wigs.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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