Recently I was watching an episode of “The Real” and they were talking about moving in silence versus telling your business, or your plans. Basically, Adrienne and Jordin Sparks, who was guest co-hosting, agreed that they prefer moving in silence. All that means is they keep their plans to themselves until they come to fruition, and if they don’t come to fruition they don’t mention them at all. Check out a clip of the segment below:
Loni, on the other hand, was like she’s lettin’ her business be known. However, they all acknowledged that the problem with that is if things don’t pan out as you intended, you then have to go back and explain what went wrong,. And that can be, as Adrienne put it, “the worst.”
No doubt there’s humiliation in saying you’re going to make something happen, and then you don’t, as if the personal disappointment you have for yourself isn’t bad enough, now you gotta throw embarrassment on top of that. Now you got people are judging you, making fun of you. That’s the real part people want to spare themselves.
While I understand moving in silence, after all, you don’t know my name…well, some of you do, but that’s not the point. The point is, I don’t have my name splayed all over this blog, because to some extent, I want to move in silence.
At the same time, I understand the value in being open, so I want to do that too. Two of my favorite entrepreneurial stories are those of Sara Blakely, creator of Spanx, and Tyler Perry creator of…well, all things Tyler Perry. What I love about their stories is how hard they tried, how much they failed but kept going and were eventually able to bounce back to actualize dream careers.
However, in both cases, they tell their stories after they made it. Not that that’s not a great perspective. They at least have their accomplishments to back up their dreams. There’s no guessing game. But I’ve always thought, wouldn’t it be great if we could’ve met them along the way? Like when Sara was suffering her 10th rejection, or when Tyler put all his money into his first play that nobody showed up to.
Well that’s what I want to give you here. You’re meeting me while I’m on my way. I’m taking you along for the ride as I pursue my dreams. And not even gonna lie, if I don’t make it, that is the worse. It’s embarrassing and humbling as fuck. But another thing I’m discovering (this is the month of discovery ‘round these parts) if that does happen, I can take it. I already know what that feels like.
I’m also discovering that if I’m going to pursue my dreams I have to plan, and not just plan, but plan well. And to do that, I need to take a break.
The reason my posts come “sometime before midnight” is because I am a…well, let me not say that…I have been a procrastinator extraordinaire. Every week, most Wednesday nights I’m writing at the last-minute to complete a post. It’s so last-minute, that a few times I’ve been late. But I want to do better, make it a little less stressful…and hell, not have to stress about what I’m going to post every week because I’ve planned ahead and can just write.
So like I said, I’m taking a break. I’ll be back some time in February. I’m going to step back, maybe not think about this blog for a minute, move in silence for a few weeks, then come back and tell it all.
In the meantime, keep discovering!
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